I told my friend the other day that 12 year old Ciiku would be very disappointed in the me I am now. It was an offhand statement as I told her how I was generally feeling. She told me I was being too hard on myself. I agree. I’ve been thinking about those words. Generally… Read More Movement or Otherwise
It seems easy for me to say “I’m going through the most” without analysing exactly what that means. Right now I am going through something, I feel like things aren’t as I’d like in my life and I’m sad. I have random panic attacks and I cry more than I care to think about or… Read More Mind Funk
Dear Ciiku, I have a FWB who is also a very close friend. I would like to ensure that it remains that way without feelings getting caught in the process but to also not treat them poorly in order to maintain this. How do I/we build the boundaries this relationship needs? Anon Dear Anon, A… Read More Ask Ciiku: I need to define boundaries with my friend with benefits
Dear Ciiku, So I’ve had this friend for about 10 years. I use the term ‘friend’ very loosely here, reason being she’s very toxic. We were very close in college but drifted apart soon after. We lost track but she somehow managed to find her way back into my life. Thing is: she gossips a… Read More Ask Ciiku: How do I deal with a toxic friend?
Dear Ciiku, My friend drugged me and I found out later. How do I confront this? Maddie Dear Maddie, I am so sorry that this happened to you, that someone broke your trust in such a manner. Not only did they do something illegal, but as someone you call friend, they broke boundaries of trust… Read More Ask Ciiku: My friend drugged me
Dear Ciiku I have a friend who spends some months of the year out of the country. We talk a lot and whenever she’s having a problem I try be supportive and help her out. However, I’ve noticed that whenever she’s in the country the friendship changes. We talk less and there is little if… Read More Ask Ciiku: I feel like a dial-a-friend
Hi Ciiku, I’ve had a rough couple of months and in this period I made a friend who seemed to have come into my life at the point where I had given up on people. We have grown rather comfortable with each other, we share details of what is happening and talk at least once… Read More Ask Ciiku: I Distrust My Friend