Ask Ciiku: I have never been in a relationship

Hey. So, due to a lot of childhood and family trauma, I have a deep fear and distrust of men. For this reason, I am 28 and I have never been in a relationship with a man. I can’t even get close enough to any of them to even try. But I want to date. How do I get over this? Is it strange that I’m 28 and have never been in a relationship?


Dear Miss,

I read your message with a heavy heart. I do not know what happened during your childhood to cause all this drama but I am so sorry that you carry this with you till this day. Have you seen a professional? A counsellor of some sort? Preferably one who isn’t religiously affiliated? I think you need to do so as a second step to healing (the first one being that you acknowledge there is something there). If you need resources on good counsellors I could possibly try and help you with this so please let me know.

All the best.




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