Letter to a former friend

Hello my dear former friend,

Do you sometimes think of what our friendship would look like a few years later? I sometimes do. I am not the same person I was when we stopped being friends.

In fact, when I think about softness, about forgiveness, I think about our friendship.

I think about how, if we didn’t take hard stances, if we were forgiving, softer, if we loved each other as we often said we did, if we approached our conversations more honestly and openly as we always said we would, we’d still be friends to this day.

That is not a reality my dear friend but I want you to know that I’m grateful because there is much I learnt from being your friend that I take with me. That I should bend and not break, that I should be softer, that despite the messaging these days – I should be forgiving. That I should remember no one is perfect, least of all me.

I hope that life is treating you kindly. And that you have friends who love you. I thank you for being my friend, for the period you were.

Your former friend,

Ciiku