Ask Ciiku: I feel like I am making a mistake

Hey there.

I’m just confused really I feel like I’m making the biggest mistake of my life and I feel trapped. I am 23, no job, pregnant by someone I’ve known for less than a year, he’s an alcoholic and not as supportive. I find myself just crying for hours on end . I just don’t know how to get myself out of this mess.


Dear M,

I think first of all, that at times like these especially, you have to trust yourself. Trust in your ability to make good decisions about you and your life. And even more so, the only person you can control in this situation is yourself. Yes, it may seem like you are between a rock and a hard place and still, you are in control of some aspects of your life.

I do hope that you have some sort of support system in place and perhaps that is the first place you could turn to. Not for them to tell you what to do, because in the end, that is up to you – but for them to offer comfort. I do hope such people exist for you.

I have to ask, when you look at your future, what do you see? And I mean in the things that you have some semblance of control over.

I hope you are able to make room for yourself and do what you feel is best given the circumstances. Again, I repeat, trust yourself.



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