Quite often I realise how much I need to unlearn. Things I was socialised to believe but are really detrimental to me living a full life.
discard (something learned, especially a bad habit or false or outdated information) from one’s memory.
Someone once told me that my posts are negative. It was a sort of critic, a suggestion that I should be more positive.
First of all, I am a big proponent of “feel your feelings” which if you read my posts, you are aware. Secondly, I do not ascribe to the forced positivity mentality that is a thing on social media. You often see people talking about struggles they go through, self doubt, moments of depletion and how positive thinking was the magic button that changed everything.
And you know what? Good for you……. it is not for me. I am not trying to sell anything. I am being. Just being.
And yes, I have tried it. It took me unlearning to get where I am. Do you know how easy it is to jump on a bandwagon? To accept something as a thing you believe in because everyone else is saying/doing it? To ignore your feelings so you can do what is expected of you or what people want you to do or doing things because everyone else around you is doing it? (Please note that I am not saying one should stew in their negativity.)
If there is something I don’t want to do any longer is hold on to opinions, beliefs because it is what I have always thought. I also don’t want to get new opinions and beliefs that are problematic, unkind, mean. I think the point is to always be willing to learn, being open to new information and realising that being wrong isn’t a death sentence. It is the path to development.
And love. Love always.
PS: This is a draft of a blogpost I have had from last year.