I honestly thought that being an agony aunt was a very good idea. I remember having a conversation with Frankie about the idea. It felt like something I could be good at. And in another sense, when I started it, I needed something good to happen. I was having a tense time and it was… Read More Why I Stopped “Ask Ciiku”
Hey there. I’m just confused really I feel like I’m making the biggest mistake of my life and I feel trapped. I am 23, no job, pregnant by someone I’ve known for less than a year, he’s an alcoholic and not as supportive. I find myself just crying for hours on end . I just… Read More Ask Ciiku: I feel like I am making a mistake
Dear Ciiku, I’ll try and keep this as short as I can. The issue is a friend who dumps me whenever they feel like only to come back when they feel like they need me. We met in campus a few years ago and some strange trick of fate, we became quite close. There were… Read More Ask Ciiku: Should I End the Friendship?
Dear Ciiku, For a long time I thought things were going well, life was moving slowly, but with some sense of direction until the earth beneath my feet gave in about a year and a half ago. I’m just floating, or sinking, not sure. I lack purpose. I grew up in a middle class family… Read More Ask Ciiku: Where do I find purpose?
I think I might have bottled up issues that usually come up in my relationships especially the current one. Things can be good then all of a sudden my insecurities and anxiety flare up. I have been assaulted thrice by 3 guys I trusted. Sharing this with anyone is difficult as people I have share… Read More Ask Ciiku: I feel empty
Hi Ciiku, Around mid-June I got back test results for some stomach issues I had gone to get checked– I was pregnant. My boyfriend and I were elated even though we weren’t expecting the news, we are slated to be married next month, I chose well this time. Before Jamhuri Day I felt slightly sick… Read More Ask Ciiku: I lost my baby
Hi Ciiku, My partner says I’m a coward and I took great offense. Perhaps you can help me see whether it’s true or not. I tend respond “late” to things people say or do to me that I find uncomfortable or offensive. Meaning, if someone offends me I won’t let them know they’re offending me… Read More Ask Ciiku: Am I a Coward?
Hi Ciiku, I’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 months now and everything has been going great. I recently brought up that I would like to initiate a relationship in the near future thinking we are on the same page, when he revealed that he isn’t sure of what he wants, generally, and by… Read More Ask Ciiku: I want a clearly defined relationship
Dear Ciiku, There’s been something tugging at me for the past couple of weeks that has been further triggered by a post on a popular blog. First, I have issues with the post… but, gai, anyway. Five years ago I met a guy who from the beginning was unlike anyone I knew, he is kind,… Read More Ask Ciiku: I Don’t Want Children
I was reading the paper this past Saturday and came across this which I posted on my IG stories: This type of thinking is the reason people suffer in silence. This type of thinking is why you hear that people have left their homes and haven’t told anyone. What does this person mean by “bear… Read More Ask Ciiku: Where I saw this on a daily newspaper