When we know that people are in an abusive relationship, and we see them act like this isn’t the case, we know they are performing their relationship. Same with adulterous relationships. There is however, a performance that we feign ignorance on that is more prevalent. I was listening to the Kidless Podcast and the guest,… Read More A Commanding Performance
“Contrary to what we may have been taught to think, unnecessary and unchosen suffering wounds us but need not scar us for life. It does mark us. What we allow the mark of our suffering to become is in our own hands.” ― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions Recently, I have been thinking about vulnerability, emotions… Read More Connection and the Abiding Softness
After I published the letter to a former friend, someone told me that I should reach out to the person. I of course decided to make a poll on Instagram instead. 52% said I shouldn’t reach out, 48% that I should. To be honest I had no intention of ever reaching out. The former friend… Read More An Autopsy of Sorts
Sometimes when an overwhelming number of people believe, say or do something that I find questionable, I always ask why. And then I form theories around why they are doing/saying as they are. I was having a conversation about how kids can be picky about what they eat and meanwhile back in the day, we… Read More A Culture of Obedience
Hello my dear former friend, Do you sometimes think of what our friendship would look like a few years later? I sometimes do. I am not the same person I was when we stopped being friends. In fact, when I think about softness, about forgiveness, I think about our friendship. I think about how, if… Read More Letter to a former friend
Have you ever been in the midst of a chat with a friend and then they say something that offends your sensibilities but you realise you don’t have a reason to be offended? I am not talking about people who say sexist, fat phobic or bigoted remarks, I am talking about how someone says something… Read More Feelings I am Feeling
Does anyone ever write a “worst of (insert year)” post? This is likely to be my last post of this year. A year of moderate highs and the LOWEST of LOWS. I started this blog in February this year (a high). So far, I have published 86 posts (one guest post) and have accumulated just… Read More Ciiku’s Best of 2018
