I give things away if I don’t need them and when I have many of the same thing. I don’t even like having many of the same thing in part because there is never need for them. Part of having many things is the culture of consumerism which I try my hardest not to practice.… Read More Things. Lots of Things
Firstly, sign up for my newsletter. I was listening to Podcasts since reading seems like a rumour and figured I should write about the podcasts that I have been able to listen to. Because obviously, there are some I have just seemed to not be able to listen to. The Homecoming Podcast with Dr Thema… Read More What I’m Listening To: Podcasts
Did you know how humans started celebrating wedding anniversaries? No? Well, I found the details for you: The historic origins of wedding anniversaries date back to the Holy Roman Empire, when husbands crowned their wives with a silver wreath on their twenty-fifth anniversary, and a gold wreath on the fiftieth. Later, principally in the twentieth… Read More Anniversaries and Capitalism
Njahi as stew. This is self explanatory. Fat shamers. Let me tell you, the way people are talking about social distancing and eating you would think becoming fat is the plague. We see you and your fat phobic messages. 😒. People who don’t see my humanity. Come closer folks – I am me, Ciiku. Not… Read More Things I am not here for
If you’ve listened to the latest episode of the podcast, you know that I said that in my youth, I would be influenced to do things – like make up and all that. Also I have often said that I don’t care about fashion. You will often find me either in maxi dresses or jeans… Read More Hips and “Feminine” Clothes
I believe I am a better driver than most people. I listen and this sometimes is confused for caring. I think I want to go back to school. I still have to deal with some low key internalised fat phobia when it comes to taking pictures/videos of myself. I was, in another lifetime, in the… Read More Things I Think About Myself
Recently, I was told things that hurt me. They were meant to hurt me, to blackmail me even. However, part of doing inner work is realising when this is happening and not feeling swayed. Now, knowing this doesn’t make the pain less, but it does make it easier to see things for what they are… Read More Emotional Blackmail
As you read this, please know that I have nothing against helping people, even strangers. There was a time when being helpful was like my side gig. I was, it seemed, very invested in providing assistance, always on the ready, as if I was collecting badges. I was helping a myriad of people, some of… Read More The Folly of Being Helpful
Let me start by saying that I don’t believe in the notion of good people. I just think people do good acts/things at times. Now Kindness? That is a whole other story. We are selfish, we want things to go our way. And even when we do things for the good of other people, most… Read More Going to Church does not make you Good
I have been thinking what attracts me to the music I listen to. I listen to different genres of music but there are some I find myself drifting towards. Why do I drift towards that kind of music? I like emotional music. And by that I mean music that makes me feel a type of… Read More Why I Enjoy the Music I Enjoy
