Have you ever been in the midst of a chat with a friend and then they say something that offends your sensibilities but you realise you don’t have a reason to be offended? I am not talking about people who say sexist, fat phobic or bigoted remarks, I am talking about how someone says something… Read More Feelings I am Feeling
Does anyone ever write a “worst of (insert year)” post? This is likely to be my last post of this year. A year of moderate highs and the LOWEST of LOWS. I started this blog in February this year (a high). So far, I have published 86 posts (one guest post) and have accumulated just… Read More Ciiku’s Best of 2018
I spend an inordinate amount of time analysing my relationships with the people in my life. From family, husband, friends…… All of them. This post is about my relationships with my friends. And the future of these friendships. The other day, I wondered if my friends would ever throw me a party. I don’t even… Read More Anytime you need a friend
It really is hard (for me) to avoid thinking about what 2018 has been and what I hope for 2019. You know, goal setting, resolutions etc. Meanwhile, I’ve already decided I am not planning to do goals, resolutions for 2019. I am coasting. That is about it – Wait, is that a goal I’ve set?… Read More New Year, New Me
When I was in university, I made a mistake. I made a mistake on who I chose to be in my life. You see, a man showed me attention, told me I was beautiful and I thought that was enough to warrant having him in my life. And as a result, I carried a hurt… Read More On Youth and Mistakes
Music means a lot to me. Not in the sense that I made a career of it. But that in 2018, it literally gave me life. 2018 has been terrible. Not to say that good things haven’t happened, but as a whole? I wouldn’t be exaggerating by saying that it is the worst year I… Read More 2018 and Music and Me
“Oh wow you are so confident!” “When did you become so confident?” “How did you become so confident?” These things make my eyes roll so much. I follow enough fat people on Instagram to see how often this question about confidence is asked. It is so irksome that the expectation, the norm is that we… Read More Fat and Confident
