This is due to what I am reading, listening to and generally thinking about. Just because the way you did something didn’t work doesn’t mean the “regular” way of doing the thing is the way to go. This tweet thread made me think about how I create bonds with my people. Whether we only speak… Read More Random Things I’m Thinking About

I was trying to remember something and I did what anyone else would do – I searched within whatsapp and one of the results that came up was a conversation from 2017 with someone who was my friend. In true morbid fascination, I read a bit of the conversation and in all honesty, that was… Read More Ghosts of Friendships Past

Desirability. Being Desired. Lately I have been thinking about how/why we desire to be desired. And how that impacts what we do, say (not say) – how we react etc. See, I often wonder why, even if you don’t desire someone (sexually), you feel a type of way when they don’t desire you? Like, why… Read More The Desire for Desire

There is this thing I am trying to unlearn – where I make considerations for people who would never make the same consideration for me. Example: when I don’t want to do something for someone but then I make excuses as to why I should. When we are told to choose ourselves, at moments, it… Read More Choose Yourself

Nothing amuses me more than people who equate body size and health. Like, in the year 2019, this is still a talking point for people. I have to laugh at the ignorance. Firstly, no one owes your raggedy ass their health, they don’t owe you an explanation, frankly, you don’t even care – you are… Read More You Don’t Care

“Be Great” “Aim Higher” “You will sleep when you die” “Black Excellence” Listen yo! I am tired. Years of hearing this nonsense and internalising this has made me realise a couple of things: I enjoy being average. I cannot stand motivational speakers. I have no desire to distract myself with busyness. I am lazy. Honestly,… Read More The Contentment of Being Average

Jordan Rakei’s Wildfire has lyrics that makes me feel melancholic: I hope it gets easierI hope things get betterI’m hoping for many thingsBut many things don’t lastNo, they don’t last forever When I get to feeling this way, my heart swells. Do any of you reading this understand what I am talking about? It is… Read More Melancholy and a Swelling Heart