Hi Ciiku, My partner says I’m a coward and I took great offense. Perhaps you can help me see whether it’s true or not. I tend respond “late” to things people say or do to me that I find uncomfortable or offensive. Meaning, if someone offends me I won’t let them know they’re offending me… Read More Ask Ciiku: Am I a Coward?
Dear Ciiku, I have a FWB who is also a very close friend. I would like to ensure that it remains that way without feelings getting caught in the process but to also not treat them poorly in order to maintain this. How do I/we build the boundaries this relationship needs? Anon Dear Anon, A… Read More Ask Ciiku: I need to define boundaries with my friend with benefits
Dear Ciiku, So I’ve had this friend for about 10 years. I use the term ‘friend’ very loosely here, reason being she’s very toxic. We were very close in college but drifted apart soon after. We lost track but she somehow managed to find her way back into my life. Thing is: she gossips a… Read More Ask Ciiku: How do I deal with a toxic friend?
Dear Ciiku, My friend drugged me and I found out later. How do I confront this? Maddie Dear Maddie, I am so sorry that this happened to you, that someone broke your trust in such a manner. Not only did they do something illegal, but as someone you call friend, they broke boundaries of trust… Read More Ask Ciiku: My friend drugged me
Dear Ciiku I have a friend who spends some months of the year out of the country. We talk a lot and whenever she’s having a problem I try be supportive and help her out. However, I’ve noticed that whenever she’s in the country the friendship changes. We talk less and there is little if… Read More Ask Ciiku: I feel like a dial-a-friend
Hi Ciiku, I’ve had a rough couple of months and in this period I made a friend who seemed to have come into my life at the point where I had given up on people. We have grown rather comfortable with each other, we share details of what is happening and talk at least once… Read More Ask Ciiku: I Distrust My Friend
Dear Ciiku, Hey. I’m in a relationship with someone who claims to love me wholeheartedly but will still do things that I’ve repeatedly told them I’m uncomfortable with e.g he’s best friends with a lady friend that they used to stay all night on phone with but he’d delete their interactions. I caught him flirting… Read More Ask Ciiku: Am I overreacting?
Dear Ciiku I turn 30 soon. I’ve always felt a tad nonchalant about birthdays especially after I threw out all those goals I had that were age – milestone based (e.g. the moved out by 25, car by 28, married by 30 etc). This has helped me live life year by year without the added… Read More Ask Ciiku: How do I get ready to turn 30?
Hey Ciiku, So my issue starts with a question. Do you believe that everyone has a person out there and eventually they’ll find them? Because I’m at that place where I don’t think this is true anymore, and some people really end up alone. And like, I’m learning to accept it, I’ve decided to give… Read More Ask Ciiku: I don’t want to be lonely
Dear Ciiku, I like a girl. She has a boyfriend. Has had one for 6 years. I know I shouldn’t be fucking with her, but here I am, nonetheless. We go on dates, we’ve had sex on 3 separate occasions, and we talk pretty much all the time, telling me things she doesn’t feel comfortable… Read More Ask Ciiku: I am being manipulated