I hate crying because I tear easily. I’m convinced something is wrong with my tear ducts because it makes no sense how the littlest and most nonsensical things make me tear up. And as a result, whenever it was I could control the flow of my tears I did. But most times it doesn’t work.… Read More The Unbearable Lightness of Crying
Hello Ciiku Thanks for setting this platform to provide advice. I have a guy friend who I like very much. We both are interested in each other but haven’t taken any steps to start a relationship. However, we don’t talk or meet up as much as I would like and the main reasons are that… Read More Ask Ciiku: He isn’t a good communicator
Dear Ciiku, I have a FWB who is also a very close friend. I would like to ensure that it remains that way without feelings getting caught in the process but to also not treat them poorly in order to maintain this. How do I/we build the boundaries this relationship needs? Anon Dear Anon, A… Read More Ask Ciiku: I need to define boundaries with my friend with benefits
Dear Ciiku, So I’ve had this friend for about 10 years. I use the term ‘friend’ very loosely here, reason being she’s very toxic. We were very close in college but drifted apart soon after. We lost track but she somehow managed to find her way back into my life. Thing is: she gossips a… Read More Ask Ciiku: How do I deal with a toxic friend?
Hi Ciiku, I am friends with a girl and I think I’m developing feelings for her. We hang out a lot and enjoy each other’s company. I haven’t yet told her how I feel yet, but this is because I think it might ruin what we have. I am not sure my feelings are reciprocated.… Read More Ask Ciiku: Will our friendship survive?
Hi Ciiku. I’m a fattie, and I love the work you do for body positivity. I like to think I’m body positive myself- except for *myself*. I can’t stand my body. I hate my flabs and tummy and how round my face has become. I cannot look in the mirror and call myself a beautiful… Read More Ask Ciiku: I have internalised fatphobia
Hey, how does one know that they actually like someone and it isn’t just as a consequence of that person saying they like them. I am starting to think I may not know the difference. Missy Dear Missy, I read in a book; The single greatest predictor of love is proximity. Your point stands and… Read More Ask Ciiku: How do you know when you like someone?
Hi Ciiku, I’m turning 28 soon and I never had a real relationship. By this I mean anything past four months, never really went on dates or spent a lot of time with anyone. I have a hard time making friends too and often spend a lot of time by myself. Lately, this feels lonely… Read More Ask Ciiku: I have never had a real relationship
Hi… So I’ll just get into it – I was emotionally and psychologically abused by someone very prominent in the KE Twittersphere – and she’s a woman. I will not come forward because I know I will not be believed and I have no way to prove it – I deleted all communication we had… Read More Ask Ciiku: I was abused by a woman
Hi Ciiku In a few weeks time, my husband and I will be celebrating our tenth wedding anniversary, and much as it should be exciting, it’s not. Hubby and I met when we were quite young and still in uni and we had a lot in common including friends and interests, in many ways we… Read More Ask Ciiku: I am confused about my marriage