Sometimes when an overwhelming number of people believe, say or do something that I find questionable, I always ask why. And then I form theories around why they are doing/saying as they are. I was having a conversation about how kids can be picky about what they eat and meanwhile back in the day, we… Read More A Culture of Obedience
I was reading the paper this past Saturday and came across this which I posted on my IG stories: This type of thinking is the reason people suffer in silence. This type of thinking is why you hear that people have left their homes and haven’t told anyone. What does this person mean by “bear… Read More Ask Ciiku: Where I saw this on a daily newspaper
The history of songs as protest in Kenya is as old as time. There is much that has been said, even documented via a project by Ketebul on the same – I wish they would put the music on the streaming sites. Anyway, the point is, artists for eons have used their art to protest… Read More Songs as Protest
Hi Ciiku. I’m a fattie, and I love the work you do for body positivity. I like to think I’m body positive myself- except for *myself*. I can’t stand my body. I hate my flabs and tummy and how round my face has become. I cannot look in the mirror and call myself a beautiful… Read More Ask Ciiku: I have internalised fatphobia
Hi Ciiku, I’m turning 28 soon and I never had a real relationship. By this I mean anything past four months, never really went on dates or spent a lot of time with anyone. I have a hard time making friends too and often spend a lot of time by myself. Lately, this feels lonely… Read More Ask Ciiku: I have never had a real relationship
Hi… So I’ll just get into it – I was emotionally and psychologically abused by someone very prominent in the KE Twittersphere – and she’s a woman. I will not come forward because I know I will not be believed and I have no way to prove it – I deleted all communication we had… Read More Ask Ciiku: I was abused by a woman
Hi Ciiku In a few weeks time, my husband and I will be celebrating our tenth wedding anniversary, and much as it should be exciting, it’s not. Hubby and I met when we were quite young and still in uni and we had a lot in common including friends and interests, in many ways we… Read More Ask Ciiku: I am confused about my marriage
Hi Ciiku This one is probably weird but I’ve been wondering so here goes… Does masturbating a few days before one’s period is due help induce it? Over at google, the information says it doesn’t but it has happened over my last two cycles. My period, that is mostly very regular, has been popping up… Read More Ask Ciiku: Does Masturbating Induce Periods?
Hi Ciiku, I broke up with my boyfriend of two years a little over a month ago and it’s been the most miserable time in my life. We met a almost 3 years ago through mutual friends and and struck up conversation and became closer with time. I have never known anyone like him, he… Read More Ask Ciiku: Should I have broken up with my boyfriend?
Dear Ciiku, Hey. I’m in a relationship with someone who claims to love me wholeheartedly but will still do things that I’ve repeatedly told them I’m uncomfortable with e.g he’s best friends with a lady friend that they used to stay all night on phone with but he’d delete their interactions. I caught him flirting… Read More Ask Ciiku: Am I overreacting?