I spend an inordinate amount of time analysing my relationships with the people in my life. From family, husband, friends…… All of them. This post is about my relationships with my friends. And the future of these friendships. The other day, I wondered if my friends would ever throw me a party. I don’t even… Read More Anytime you need a friend
Dear Ciiku, There’s been something tugging at me for the past couple of weeks that has been further triggered by a post on a popular blog. First, I have issues with the post… but, gai, anyway. Five years ago I met a guy who from the beginning was unlike anyone I knew, he is kind,… Read More Ask Ciiku: I Don’t Want Children
It really is hard (for me) to avoid thinking about what 2018 has been and what I hope for 2019. You know, goal setting, resolutions etc. Meanwhile, I’ve already decided I am not planning to do goals, resolutions for 2019. I am coasting. That is about it – Wait, is that a goal I’ve set?… Read More New Year, New Me
I was reading the paper this past Saturday and came across this which I posted on my IG stories: This type of thinking is the reason people suffer in silence. This type of thinking is why you hear that people have left their homes and haven’t told anyone. What does this person mean by “bear… Read More Ask Ciiku: Where I saw this on a daily newspaper
Please read this article. I have read and reread that article countless times. And I have been thinking. Some questions that have arisen: Why is being desired important? Whose validation am I seeking? What or whose agenda am I furthering by hating how I look? Whose energy am I allowing to negatively affect me as… Read More Why You Asking Questions?
When I was in university, I made a mistake. I made a mistake on who I chose to be in my life. You see, a man showed me attention, told me I was beautiful and I thought that was enough to warrant having him in my life. And as a result, I carried a hurt… Read More On Youth and Mistakes
Dear Ciiku, I’m a guy racing towards my 30s and though it took a while to get a stable job, I am now comfortably working and building a career. I have been in only one romantic relationship my whole life which is fine since I am devoted to a small group of friends. Over the… Read More Ask Ciiku: How do I get my friends back?