Hello Ciiku Thanks for setting this platform to provide advice. I have a guy friend who I like very much. We both are interested in each other but haven’t taken any steps to start a relationship. However, we don’t talk or meet up as much as I would like and the main reasons are that… Read More Ask Ciiku: He isn’t a good communicator
The history of songs as protest in Kenya is as old as time. There is much that has been said, even documented via a project by Ketebul on the same – I wish they would put the music on the streaming sites. Anyway, the point is, artists for eons have used their art to protest… Read More Songs as Protest
I’ve let go in a way that is antithetical to who I am as Ciiku. What do you do when everything you’ve done is right but you can’t control everything and when things can’t be control and you lose, what can you do? Last week was a haze. Things went wrong in a way that… Read More Are you OK?
I told my friend the other day that 12 year old Ciiku would be very disappointed in the me I am now. It was an offhand statement as I told her how I was generally feeling. She told me I was being too hard on myself. I agree. I’ve been thinking about those words. Generally… Read More Movement or Otherwise
It seems easy for me to say “I’m going through the most” without analysing exactly what that means. Right now I am going through something, I feel like things aren’t as I’d like in my life and I’m sad. I have random panic attacks and I cry more than I care to think about or… Read More Mind Funk
Dear Ciiku, I have a FWB who is also a very close friend. I would like to ensure that it remains that way without feelings getting caught in the process but to also not treat them poorly in order to maintain this. How do I/we build the boundaries this relationship needs? Anon Dear Anon, A… Read More Ask Ciiku: I need to define boundaries with my friend with benefits
Dear Ciiku, So I’ve had this friend for about 10 years. I use the term ‘friend’ very loosely here, reason being she’s very toxic. We were very close in college but drifted apart soon after. We lost track but she somehow managed to find her way back into my life. Thing is: she gossips a… Read More Ask Ciiku: How do I deal with a toxic friend?